Summer Self-Care for Single Moms

Hey, awesome mom!

We know you may not feel awesome right now, but rest assured—YOU ARE!

We want to remind you that you are an incredible woman who is worthy of goodness, kindness, joy, and love.

As we considered the summer months and what single moms are facing, we thought about how hard self-care is for ALL moms, in every season. With your children home from school for a few months though, it can be even more challenging for single moms to make time to care for themselves.

If you want to put your best self forward, it’s going to require intentional choices (especially as a busy, single mom). But you CAN feel healthy, look great, and live a joy-filled life, all while juggling life’s crazy, hectic demands.

Julie Burton, a self-care author, entrepreneur, and self-proclaimed wellness warrior encourages moms that what seems impossible can be possible.

The moment you become a mother and commit to caring for your child, [you need to] set an intention for yourself: I will honor and respect myself by regularly taking care of my needs. This will make me happier and better able to care for my family,” Burton says. “As moms, we have an enormous opportunity to set a great example for our children of how to be kind to ourselves, and in turn, how to be kind to others. As the saying goes, we can’t pour from an empty cup.

Is your cup empty today, Mama?

It may be time to set an intention for yourself. Make self-care a summer goal.

Stop Spinning in Circles

How can you possibly make self-care a goal? After all, you’re already feeling stretched so thin. It may be time to consider what gets the most focus in your life. Where are you currently spending your time, money, and attention?

In our Shepherd’s Village University class #GOALS, we talk about how it can feel when we aren’t being intentional about what we want and need.

James Clear at Habits Academy offers an excellent metaphor:

Imagine a small rowboat. Your goals are like the rudder on the boat. [Goals] set the direction and determine where you go. If you commit to one goal, then the rudder stays put and you continue moving forward. If you flip-flop between goals, then the rudder moves all around and it is easy to find yourself rowing in circles. However, there is another part of the boat that is even more important than the rudder: The oars. If the rudder is your goal, then the oars are your process for achieving it. While the rudder determines your direction, it is the oars that determine your progress.

You don’t have to be in the Coast Guard to realize, this is a perfect picture for how many single moms feel. We’re just spinning in circles. Round and round and round–going nowhere fast. Either that, or we’ve turned off the engine and we’re just going wherever the current takes us.

You can stop the crazy, out of control cycle. Clear says identify that ONE THING that will make other things in our lives fall into a better place.

Mom, we’re asking you to consider making self-care your ONE THING this summer.

Set the goal and then begin the process.

For example, if you’re a runner, your GOAL may be to run a marathon. If that is the case, your PROCESS is the training schedule you will need to set for the month.

To take a closer look at Goals vs. Processes, enroll today in the free online courses offered through Shepherd’s Village University.

Self-Assessment Time

Before you dive into a few of our ideas for self-care, take a minute to first do some self-reflecting. If you have a journal, it would be a worthwhile exercise to answer this question for yourself.

In what ways can I honor and respect myself more?  

Got your answers?  Then let’s consider a few ideas to get you refueled.

Because when Mama is happy, everyone is happy!

#1: Stay Connected to Community

Motherhood is isolating. Single motherhood can be one of the loneliest jobs. You’ve heard the expression: it takes a village, and it really does. Not just for raising your children, but for your well-being too. You need friendship and people around you. Self-care often starts by having your social and emotional needs met first.

Now it’s your turn. Here’s the goal…add steps you can take to the process. We’re just getting you started.  

GOAL: Friendship & Community

PROCESS:

  •       Join a moms group
  •       Call friends and meet up (with or without kids)
  •       Join a church small group
  •       Attend local family-friendly events

Keep the list going…

#2: Stay Connected to God

Growing in our faith is something that encourages us to become better human beings, but also to trust in an all-powerful God more. When you’re feeling discouraged, care for your soul first. The time spent knowing God more and praying to Him will go a long way in bringing clarity and hope to places that are currently confusing or difficult.

GOAL: Grow in Faith

PROCESS:

  •       Go to church
  •       Read my bible every day
  •       Journal
  •       Commit to praying
  •       Find a mentor

Keep the list going…

#3: Get Your Body Moving

We feel sluggish and lazy when we aren’t keeping our body active. That creates a trap for us. We become inactive. We feel lazy. We make excuses to not be active. And around-and-around-and-around it goes. It’s time to get your body moving. You don’t need a gym membership to feel a lot better about yourself. Just look for opportunities to move more. Get those happy hormones pumping!

GOAL: Exercise

PROCESS:

  •       Take a 10-minute walk on a lunch break
  •       Walk at the park with the kids
  •       Find a YouTube workout
  •       March in place while doing the dishes

Keep the list going…

#4: Feed Your Body Well

There’s a misconception that feeding your body healthy foods costs more money and time. Yet, making intentional healthy choices can fuel your mind to make better financial decisions and use your time more wisely. What you’re eating is so important to your wellbeing. Be a great example to your kids by choosing colorful, fresh foods. See our guide to selecting the best fruit in the supermarket.

GOAL: Good nutrition

PROCESS:

  •   Eat five fruits & vegetables a day
  •   Cut down on sugar
  •   Drink more water
  •   Eat more whole foods

Keep the list going…

#5: Schedule Well-Checks

You wouldn’t let your kids miss their annual check-ups—so don’t let your own health fall by the wayside. Ignoring your body’s signals and neglecting to seek medical attention can result in serious health scares. Take time to schedule annual checkups, appropriate tests, mammograms, skin exams, pap smears, flu shots, and vision screenings. And get to the dentist for an annual exam and cleaning. If you don’t have insurance, you can look into health share plans or find a free clinic in your area—like A Woman’s Place Medical Clinic, which is located near us.

GOAL: Health

PROCESS:

  •       Find a free or low-cost clinic near me
  •       Start setting up appointments
  •       Don’t cancel my appointments

Keep the list going…

#6: Prioritize Pampering

It seems like there’s never enough time or money for hair appointments or a summer pedicure. Is there a way you could make the time or set aside the money—even if you just collect spare change in a jar with pampering in mind? When you look good, you feel much better. And when you feel much better, you are kinder and gentler to those around you.

Now it’s your turn to do it on your own. Fill in the goal and a few steps you can take in the process of achieving it.

GOAL:

PROCESS:

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#7: Find Time to Be Quiet

Do this one totally on your own. Why is finding time for quietness important for self-care?

Fill in the goal and a few steps you can take in the process of achieving it.

GOAL:

PROCESS:

  •       ________________________
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#8: Enroll in Shepherd’s Village University

It’s free. It’s easy. And it’s so encouraging!

GOAL: Get refreshed and renewed.

PROCESS:


Still looking for ideas of things to do with your kids this summer?

Check out our Healthy Parenting post that packed full of summer fun!